The New Years’ relationship resolution that comes first

One of the biggest resolutions of the New Year is to find love again before this time next year.

First love

In making resolutions, as in books, music and the movies, medieval ideals of romance still influence the quest for contemporary relationships. And before you’re eligible to love, or be loved happily ever after, you’re somehow expected to be perfect yourself!

Romantic love is an attachment to projected fantasies based on outdated needs, but real love is different. Real love accepts that our object of desire is a human being and therefore just as fallible and vulnerable as we are.

Navigational Tips For Living In An Imperfect World,
Charles Bentley PhD and Marian Edmunds, 2012.

But first comes the relationship with the self.

There is no challenge, internal or external, that can’t be successfully navigated by someone who has an integrated understanding of, and relationship with, his or her authentic self.

Navigational Tips For Living In An Imperfect World,
Charles Bentley PhD and Marian Edmunds, 2012.

Should we put the relationship with the self on our list of resolutions?
All the best for the New Year, and for a joyful year of discovery in 2013.
We’re all right as we are, if only we knew it!

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